How to Support Your Child Without Becoming ‘That’ Soccer Parent

Oct 6

Written By Chris .

(Encourage Without Overstepping)

You’ve seen that parent—the one pacing the sideline, yelling instructions, or grilling their child after a tough game. They usually mean well, but their intensity can add pressure and even make kids want to quit.

If you want to be a positive, supportive presence (without slipping into “that” territory), here are 7 practical tips to keep soccer enjoyable for your child—and for you.

1. Let the Coach Be the Coach

Yelling instructions like “Pass!” or “Shoot!” during games can confuse kids and undermine the coach. Your job? Cheer, don’t coach. Positive phrases like:

“Great effort!”
“Keep going!”
are all they need to hear from you on game day.

2. Focus on Enjoyment, Not Just Performance

Wins, goals, and stats can overshadow the real purpose of youth sports: fun and growth. Ask after the game:

“What was your favorite part today?”
instead of
“Did you score?”
This keeps soccer low-pressure and joyful.

3. Control the Post-Game Talk

The car ride home is where many parents accidentally become that parent. Avoid play-by-play critiques right after the match. Instead, start with:

“I loved watching you play.”
If they want feedback later, let them ask for it.

4. Watch Your Body Language

Kids notice every sigh, eye roll, or head shake. Even silent reactions can feel like criticism. Keep your body language positive—smile, clap, and show that you’re enjoying the game regardless of the score.

5. Keep Perspective on the Bigger Picture

Youth soccer is about developing life skills: teamwork, resilience, confidence. Remember: very few kids go pro, but every child can gain valuable lessons from the game. Keep the focus on growth, not trophies.

6. Respect Officials and Opponents

Complaining about referees or criticizing other players sends the wrong message. Model respect—even when calls don’t go your way. Your child learns sportsmanship from watching you.

7. Encourage Balance and Independence

Don’t let soccer take over your child’s entire life. Encourage other hobbies and give them space to manage their soccer experience—like packing their own gear. Independence builds confidence, on and off the field.

Final Thought

Being a great soccer parent isn’t about shouting the loudest or knowing the most—it’s about creating an environment where your child feels supported, confident, and happy to play. Stay positive, keep perspective, and let the game be theirs.